Wednesday, March 13, 2019

Whatever It Takes

Have you ever been in a position of having someone--a spouse, significant other, someone very close to you--ask you a major, "What if..." question?

I was having a discussion with a woman recently and she shared that she was struggling as the primary financial support for her family, burning herself out with work, home, juggling kids, trying to maintain her marriage, but at the end of the day, she's just left with worries about what would happen to the kids if something happened to her.

So she asked her husband, "What if I suddenly die?  What would you do to take care of them?"

His response?  "I would do whatever it takes."

I took this in, keeping my thoughts to myself, but couldn't help but think...

He says that if she was not here, he would do whatever it takes to take care of his children.  But why can't he do whatever it takes right now?  Why is his investment in his family's future--his investment in his children--contingent on her presence?

I have no answers, but it got me thinking about relationship dynamics and the hows and whys of one person in the relationship taking on the bulk of the burden while the other skates by.  Not healthy.  But all too common.