Tuesday, November 06, 2012


This is not political at all (though I did vote today!).

People need to realize that being great and being good are two different things.  Selfishness is not an attractive quality.  Not taking accountability for one's actions and words (or lack of one's actions and words) is not attractive. Blaming others for your own shortcomings is annoying.  Don't even get me started on being irresponsible.  Lies by omission are still lies--and in many ways, far more damaging than blatant lies.  Owning one's mistakes and misdeeds (both intentional and not) goes a long way in an apology.  Nonsense apologies are just that--nonsense.  No apology at all is way better than a half-hearted, insincere apology.  What makes a good apology?  Saying you're sorry, owning what you did wrong and sincerely accepting responsibility, making it right and finally, making sure it doesn't happen again.

Monday, November 05, 2012

Small Changes

After yet another cluster of difficult days and weeks, I finally just made up my mind to be in a good mood regardless of what's going on around me or how crabby other people are--what's that old saying?  Life's too short to spend with people who suck the joy out of you.

That is SO TRUE.

So I made a few small changes to boost my own mood, even if other people are intent on bringing me down.

  • Wearing high heels a few times a week to work...because I LOVE high heels.  Who cares if they make me way taller than all the men in my department?  I'm tall and heels make me taller.  They can deal with it.
  • Wearing bold lipstick.  Not trashy, but brighter/darker than the nudes and neutrals I wear.  Makes me feel like people pay more attention when I speak.  That's probably all in my head, but I'm surprisingly okay with that.
  • Embracing my curves and flaunting them with stylish clothes.  There's really no good reason for me to hide behind dark slacks and boxy sweaters. 
  • Making at least one person laugh every single day.  Laughter is contagious.  I highly recommend you catch some.
  • Stepping outside of my comfort zone at least once every single day.  This is hard, but I've been doing it.  And I'm genuinely surprised, in a good way, at the positive reception.  Turns out that I'm a pretty neat person when I let people see my hidden side. 
Go me!